Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Your help needed

This year the date snuck up on me, and I didn't plan any sort of gathering or celebration in honor of my mom, and I didn't even realize it until I woke up at 3 am that today was what I've taken to calling the Feast of Madelyn, aka the day seven years ago that my little momelet checked out. So, in that unwelcome wakefulness, the idea came to me to ask anyone who reads this post to do me a favor and join in me in a virtual celebration wherever you are by either:

a) eating a delicious meal or

b) spending some time with a friend.

Food and friends were my mom's big things; she was always organizing parties or book clubs or golf tournaments, and just about everyone who knew her, including me, felt like she was one of their very best friends. Heck, you could just raise a glass of wine in her name, or call someone you haven't talked to in awhile, and that would be enough. Just come back here and tell me about it, to bring all the separate little actions together in one place. Let's celebrate the Feast of Madelyn all over the world. Anyone with me?

I haven't figured out what The Professor and I will do this evening in her honor. The easiest plan would be to go out for a meal, but after unexpectedly having to pay for three new tires yesterday, I think we'll be eating at home. I want to call some people today that my mother loved just to connect with them, like my godmother Joan, who is the one on the left in the photo. I'll come back and report, too.

In other news, I started exercising again today for the first time in I don't even remember how long, which felt great, and in a couple hours, the nice man from the women's shelter is coming to take away the dining room set my wonderful aunt and uncle donated to me when I moved in to the house. We've rearranged things and have a different place to eat now, and someone else who is starting over with nothing could no doubt make better use of it.

Thank you in advance to anyone who helps me mark this day. To Madelyn!


  1. I know how you feel, I lost my dad 8 years ago this march, count me in.

  2. What a beautiful idea. I will raise a glass to Madelyn tonight. And your thought about re-connecting with friends is a great one. I'm on it, and I'll report back.

    Madelyn sounds like she was an awesome person. In my opinion, you are embodying her ideals. Keep it up Darx!

  3. My mom died when I was 20. I plan to have a meal with a good friend tomorrow evening :^} OK, it was planned before I read your post, but it will have extra meaning now.

    Tim Damon

  4. Happy to join in! I'm attending a healer's circle tonight and we'll lift up her, and your, name/s in celebratory honor. xoxoxo

  5. fitting that i reconnect with you today then. I'm only seeing this now, and I'm afraid my meal tonight was hospital cafeteria food, nothing to call special, but I'm glad you thought to have the Feast of Madelyn and invite all to take part, equally that I woke up wondering about Daniel and found you in time for it.

  6. Excellent tribute. The best way to ensure that those we love live on is to honor the things they loved: whether it be food, friends, music, art, a favorite place, a favorite story.

    Yesterday I was contacted via Facebook by an old highschool friend whom I haven't seen in nearly 30 years. I'll dedicate that chance reconnection to your mom.

  7. Iam blessed to be able to count your Mom as a friend.We laughed & cried together........both on the golf course. She had a great sence of humor.She taught me about life in the kitchen. Fantastic meals were a labour of love. I'll never forget when you & Madelyn(even though she wasn't feeling well) surprised Joan on her birthday.I always celabrate her life on May 31 I know she would be proud of you

  8. Thank you so much to all of you for celebrating with me. All of your replies made me choke up with gratitude.


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